Steps to Believe in Yourself

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​There is a whole world waiting for you to shine and share your special talents!
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There may be times in your life in which you felt an increased belief in yourself  when others validated you and encouraged you. Yes, that feels great! Then there are times when someone didn't believe in you and you had to dig really deep to find belief in yourself. Or you used that disbelief to really learn to believe in yourself. 

I think most of us have an inner knowing of what we really want in life. We know what lights us up, what we feel super excited about, what brings us the most joy, and the outcomes we are searching for. 

Sometimes we don't acknowledge this because it feels completely overwhelming and out of reach. It may feel too uncertain, too totally unreachable and unattainable in your current reality of life.

This can be challenging, I definitely get it. Change can be exciting but can be scary and difficult. Believing in yourself during this time can be challenging as well. Your heart may want to do that thin that excite you and what you really want, and your mind is trying to keep you safe and protected by convincing you it isn't safe and to stay stable and not push too much. 

We begin looking for validation outside of ourselves and maybe permission to go forward. We may received positive feedback or we may have people project their fears on us and tell us that what we are doing is scary. I definitely get that validation feels great, sort of like confirming we are doing the right thing. However it's tricky because what is right for someone else, may not be right for us. We also don't strengthen our own self-trust skills. 

From my own experiences, I know external validation feels great. However I also have learned that my answers are inside and I needed to tap into them. I learned to trust what I know best for myself and I have the answers. I have gained experience in life to know what works and doesn't. I am aware of what it feels like to be excited and lit-up or not so much. I may not have all the pieces figured out but I have a deep inner knowing of what I truly want. I pursue my passions and goals, I can now speak my own truth. I am aware there is competition out there and I won't always be validated, regardless I know what is best for my own particular path in life. 

So, how do you build self-trust? Here are a few ideas to get started:

• Be honest about your passions. Be honest what you want to do with your life and how you want to move forward.
• Notice when you are making excuses for yourself.
• Notice your own energy levels as you accomplish tasks. What could you do every day and be happy? What would you like to never do again?
• Be aware of that knowing feeling that you get when you tell your truth. Pay attention to what it feels like to stand up for yourself in a confident, strong way. Not the times when you feel you have to defend yourself or prove yourself.
• Really listen when someone compliments you on a strength of yours. They are witnessing something in you that not everyone has the capacity to do. And taking the time to express that to you. 
• Consider the outcome YOU want. We fall into the trap of putting other people’s needs in front of our own too often when we forget to check in with ourselves first.
• Watch for when you stop making excuses. That’s when you know you’re standing up for you.
• Be unapologetic about what your talents – the world needs them!
• Give others a chance to truly see you. But if they don’t, then move on. There is no sense spending time proving yourself to individuals who don’t get it (reasons for that don’t really matter) when there is a whole world out there waiting to see your genius self step up. Why keep them waiting?

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