In the past few weeks, I traveled to beautiful Charleston, I went hiking and trail running at beautiful Roan Mountain and spent time in NYC exploring the Big Apple. 3 totally different adventures! This is the season for outdoor adventures for me! I love to be able to take some time to breathe, reflect, spend time outdoors and travel.
I am about to begin a rigorous Life Coaching and Leadership program starting in August which I am super excited about. I am looking forward to learning new skills to share and continuing to grow personally and professionally.
Of course adventures aren't always easy. Life isn’t always perfect and I hit my road bumps too. I am constantly evolving and growing, which takes a lot of self awareness and acton steps too.
I want you to know that life happens to all of us. The sweet and not so sweet are part of the adventure of life.
Even though I’ve studied extensively how to how to communicate better, how to make the best choices for myself…life still throws me curveballs. I still make mistakes. I still have things to work on. I’m still learning. I still get shocked by events I didn’t foresee happening. That part of life never stops.
So, I learned a few things:
You make your own adventures in life.
Don’t let time, money or the number of friends you have become an obstacle. I have travelled to many amazing places in the world and I have a been a weekend adventure seeker for years. I joined a great outdoor club, met some like minded people and to the mountains I went! A day trip or a weekend of camping is not costly. I am super proud of all the things I have seen and done in my years of adventuring. Make your adventures in the time you have with the budget you have available to you. There is so much of this world to see. Get out there and play. Plus you'll create great stories! :)
You make your own happiness.
We all are individuals and have different meanings of what happiness is and it may look different than our own meaning. That's totally ok. When someone is creating their own happiness and joy, you can see the glow in them and it's undeniable.
Joy and happiness is a state of being, an inside job. It is not always based on a person or a thing, it comes from within. Go out and make your adventures and find your own joy. Pay attention to those moments. Who do you want to be in this world?
I feel grateful for these adventures. Life is ever changing. Some moments are totally amazing and some moments are downright awful. That will continue. Those not so great moments help you build resilience. You learn what you really want and what you don’t want out of life. Those years that produce ease and happiness allow you to enjoy all the work you’ve done on yourself.
At any given moment, you can stop to acknowledge the not so great, release it and focus in on the good. When you do that, you will begin to see more and more of it. A practice I will suggest is to pay attention to what brings you adventure and happiness and to make plans to create more of that in your life. The possibilities are endless!
Sometimes we get to a certain point and we just need to take a pause and reflect so we can reset in order to go forward. Sometimes the beginning of a new year causes us to take a pause and reflect. Other times it can be after a loss, a major transition, a fabulous travel opportunity, or a change in life.
For me, my pause and reset came after the loss of my dog Chase and a relationship ending around the same time. I took some time to get quiet and and to listen to my own voice and heart and hear what it was telling me. How do I want to be in my life? What can I do differently? What do I want to change? What do I feel grateful for? Having done the work and being open and honest with myself has been life-changing. I feel as though I am more connected to myself, happy, more at peace, and excited about what new adventures will come.
What if you aren't at a major transition in your life? That's ok, you can still take a pause and reset, Summer is also a great time to pause when schedules may slow down a little. Plus it is half way into the year. Find any date and make it your time to reflect on the first half of the year. Use this day as an opportunity to explore what the rest of the year looks like for you. Who do you really want to be?
Here are 3 exercises you can do to help you reset and go forward with new vibrancy, excitement, and purpose.
Set a date and make it happen.
Pick a date that resonates with you. Perhaps the Summer Solstice, which happens every year between June 20 and June 22. The Summer Solstice officially brings in summer and is the day of the year in which we get the most amount of daylight. What better way to enjoy that extra bit of light than by exploring the ways in which you can start fresh for the rest of the year?
Reflect, then Look Forward.
What has worked for you so far this year? What would you like to change? Make a list. The good and not so good. Get it all down on paper. Maybe practice gratitude for the good. Reflect, and write down how the not so good made you feel and any thoughts, learning lessons or growth, and what may need to change. Not sure what I mean? Perhaps you lost a loved one, a job, or are just in a rut. That sadness you feel can be transformed into positive energy. Maybe volunteering more and helping others can help. Maybe you made some mistakes in some aspects of your life. Own it. Recognize it. Change it. Write it down and then set out how to do something different moving ahead.
Once you have your list and have set goals, check in on yourself! Don’t let excuses get in the way of your growth. Perhaps tell a friend or family member what you’re up to and ask them to help keep you on track and on target. By setting your goals in this deliberate manner, you take actionable steps to a fresh perspective to go forward with.
Licensed counselor, outdoor enthusiast, yoga lover and passionate about wellness.